我们都曾碰到过人生道路上的绊脚石，挫折，和难题。将人们划分成不同人的，是我们如何去应对这绊脚石。你是那个在绝望中失控的人吗？亦或是那个抓紧方向盘，勇往直前的人?无论是在学校作业，项目工程，或志愿任务，我们总会碰到那些使我们停滞不前的事物。你只需牢记：挫折只是暂时的，而美好的事情正等着我们。
辞职，放弃，并且忽略你那曾经付出良多的艰难工作是很容易的。但是在SparkPeople（网站名），我们信仰“向前两步，退后一步”的哲学。那么如果一些不好的事情发生了怎么办？继续向前走，继续你已经拥有的。你已经建立了一个坚实的、足够让你去依靠的基础。不应忽略困难的工作。
那么如果一些事并非按着你所预料的方向发展要怎么办？首先，要客观。后退一步看清状况。该负责的事情就要负责，而不是去指责他人。你的挫折真的那么重大吗？或者对你来讲它真的需要你付出额外的努力吗？向它妥协吧，然后开始计划你的下一步。或者寻求帮助。不要害怕或者耻于做这些。大多数时候，人们都会非常乐意地给你帮助和建议，他们或许才刚刚走出和你类似的境遇。你无须完美；毕竟，没有人是完美的。
当你的心灵受挫复原后，重新估价你那本应在一开始就为自己确定的目标，有必要的话重新装备他们。目标应当现实并且有针对性，但是这并不表明他们不能变通，并不表明它们只能容忍最小限度的挫折。
与其将你的项目看做一个失败的灾难，不如用一种成功的心态去对待它。将思想集中在将它完成后感觉会有多么棒上——你已经为它付出了一切。与其聚焦于某次可能使人不满的表现，不如停下来，花点时间去奖励自己所做的一切。
最重要的是，不要心怀悔恨的生活。要不屈不挠的生活，对那些最重要的事情全身心的投入。成功绝非易事。全看你是放弃，还是在这场艰难的战役中为你所想要的而搏斗
Ralph Waldo Emerson的一首诗的片段是这样写的：
“结束每一天并完成每一天。
你已经做了你力所能及的。
如果一些错误和荒谬还是发生了。
那么你只需尽快的忘掉这些。”
继续你的生活。继续追求你的目标，总有一天你会成功。如果你真的想要它，并且愿意为它付出，那么这一点小小的挫折不算什么。
How to Deal with Setbacks
We’ve all hit that bump in the road, the setback, the problem. What sets people apart is how they react to that bump. Are you one to spin out of control, in despair? Or do you grab a hold of that wheel and steer yourself straight? Whether it’s a school assignment, a work project, or a volunteer mission, we all encounter things that slow us down. You just have to keep in mind that a setback is only temporary and greater things lay ahead.
It is easy just to quit, give up and ignore the hard work you have put into something. But at SparkPeople, we believe in the "two steps forward, one step back" philosophy. So what if something bad happens? Keep moving forward, developing what you have. You’ve already built a solid foundation on which you can rely. Hard work can’t be overlooked.
So how can you react when something doesn’t turn out as you’ve expected? First, be objective. Step back and look at the situation. Take responsibility where it is due, but don’t place blame on others. Is your setback really that significant, or will it just require a little extra exertion on your part? Come to terms with it and then start planning your next move. Ask for help. Don’t be afraid or ashamed to do this. Oftentimes, people are more than willing to give you support and advice, maybe even after being in a similar situation. You don’t have to be perfect; after all, nobody else is.
Bounce back. Reevaluate the goals you should have set for yourself at the beginning and retool them as necessary. Goals should be realistic and specific, but that doesn’t mean they can’t be flexible and are allowed for minor impediments. Instead of looking at your project as a disaster or failure, view it with success. Concentrate on how great it will feel after it is finally done, after you have put your all into it. Instead of focusing on a possible unsatisfactory performance one single time, take a moment to sit back and reward yourself for all that you have accomplished.
Above all, don’t live with regrets. Approach life with perseverance and dedication to the things that matter most to you. Success is never easy. It remains up to you whether you will give up, or fight through the tough battles to earn whatever it is you want.
A fragment of a poem by Ralph Waldo Emerson is telling:
"Finish each day And be done with it.
You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities have crept in. Forget them as soon as you can."
Move on with your life. Keep reaching for your goals and you will achieve them. One minor setback is nothing if you really want something and are willing to work for it. |
